Kate Hudson quit dating after Matt Bellamy split
Kate Hudson quit dating on the advice of her therapist following the end of her engagement to Muse star Matt Bellamy.
Kate Hudson quit dating on the advice of her therapist after splitting from Matt Bellamy.
The 'Almost Famous' actress, 45, had a son, Ryder, with her first husband Chris Robinson - who she divorced in 2007 - and she went on to welcome another boy, Bingham, with the Muse rocker in 2011 before they ended their engagement in 2014 - and now Kate has revealed she walked away from the dating scene after her therapist told her to take a year-long break.
During an appearance on Elizabeth Day's 'How To Fail' podcast, Kate admitted she felt like the breakdown of any relationship felt like she'd failed. She explained: "The hardest part about walking away from relationships is the feeling of failure. One hundred per cent.
"So for me, that was the hardest thing, it's letting go of the fact that it feels like a failure, or I couldn't make something work, or I couldn't fix something.
"I think sometimes it's like you're trying to fit a square peg in the round hole and it's just never going to happen' ...
"Then you realise as it heals: 'Oh, this isn't the failure, this was exactly what needed to happen'.
"Because if you look back and you're like: 'Uh oh, what did I do? Why couldn't I do that? Why couldn't I give that person what they needed?'
"Then you have to do some real reflecting and really go figure out what that is."
Kate went on to explain her decision to quit dating, adding: "I took boys out of the equation and had to just go through this process of feeling very uncomfortable with not having any connection to anything that could ignite my dopamine, my flirtatious.
"Then it was like I hit something, I hit this core of an issue for myself. I had [an] almost like childhood cry and it was like a weight had been lifted off of me and honestly, from that point on, I couldn't care less about who was texting me.
"My life became so happy alone. I felt very connected to what I wanted to do, my daily routine with my kids, my cozy time.
"I didn't care about putting anything on and so when then I went back into the dating world, my relationship to dating completely changed."
Kate went on to strike up a romance with musician Danny Fujikawa. They welcomed a daughter, Rani, in 2018 and announced their engagement in 2021.
The actress went on to explain how she's managed to keep a friendly relationship with her ex Matt, who married model Elle Evans in 2019 and became a dad to two more children with her.
She said: "We're so close. I love him, his wife, his family, the kids, our kids are so close ... We figured out how to have a very different relationship that isn't about us being together.
"We weren't right for each other and we tried really, really, really hard and instead of blaming or creating the argument or creating the problem, it was just like: 'I don't want to keep going down this path'.
Kate revealed she knew Danny as a family friend before they started dating, and she's convinced their relationship is strong because they share the same values.
She said: "I was so happy alone and because I wasn't looking, the right person was right in front of me for 14 years. I knew Danny for so long and I think the thing about Danny is our value system is very similar.
"It's so cosy and when you have that kind of support system, his value of family is so strong, it's so solid that it just makes all of the times that can be hard or where life challenges you, it makes them so much easier."
