Jana Hocking: 'I was having the best casual sex of my life but then I made a BIG mistake!'
Jana Hocking was having the "bet casual sex" of her life until she "bonded" romantically with one of her partners.
Jana Hocking was having the "best casual sex" of her life until she "bonded" romantically with one of her partners.
The 38-year-old podcaster had recently come out of a relationship when she decided to set up a casual relationship with a man she met online but it "ended in disaster" when the pair bonded romantically during the middle of the COVID-19 lockdowns.
Writing for Femail, she said: "If you want to have a successful FWB, you basically must never bond. Should you find yourself sharing a connection with your FWB, you are really screwed.
Nothing throws a spanner in the works quite like forming a proper crush on them. I learned this the hard way during lockdown and spoiler alert: it ended in disaster. This was a guy who I knew vaguely through friends, but got to know better thanks to some DMs right in the middle of lockdown when the boredom had well and truly kicked in.
"One night after a few strong-pour martinis, the messages turned a little raunchy and I thought great, I've got myself a FWB.
The guy fancied himself quite the cook, so when he offered to drop over a lasagna, who was I to say no? I had become best friends with half the Uber eats drivers in Sydney, so it was a 'big yes' to a home cooked meal."
The sex advice expert went on to add that she and the man became "glued to the hips" over the course of lockdown but when restrictions were lifted, she went back to a guy she had been seeing at work and "feelings got hurt" when a girl he had been seeing turned back up in town.
She said: "Uh-oh: we bonded. We spent the next couple of weeks in lockdown fairly glued to the hip, so when it was time to come out and mix with others again, things started to go pear shaped. A girl he had been seeing interstate before lockdown came back into town, a guy I had been seeing at work was back within my 5km radius. Things were grand when life was on pause, but Sydney really sped back up again post-lockdown and we were left in a very 'it's complicated' status. Safe to say, feelings got hurt, words were said, and sadly we really took the 'friends' out of FWB."
